7 Tips for Raising Great People

Tip 1 Never treat children as inferiors.
I'm often amazed at the attitude of people.

Some people think that a child is only a half a person and cannot contribute anything until it has reached adulthood. I have learnt more about myself from my kids than any other person living on this earth.

Just think how you feel when your boss, spouse, partner or colleague gives you the impression that they are cleverer, more experienced and better than you.

Would you agree that it doesn't feel like a good place to be in? Tip 2 Don't kill personalities by saying things like Oh you'll never amount to anything with that attitude.
If your parents said it to you it may be possible that you're just repeating the same old stuff.

This is not true.

People can amount to anything they want to be.

The only thing holding them back is a set of false beliefs.

So refrain from programming them into believing they'll never amount to being anything.

A wholesome approach is to point out the things that are positive.
As a mother or father there should be at least 25 good qualities you can think of right now. If you really detest the attitude take a look at yours first and make sure that some of it hasn't spilled over into your offspring.

Can't see a part of you in that attitude that makes you want to climb the wall? Then speak to your child, say, "you know I noticed that lately you are always rolling your eyes when I talk to you.
Do I do that? Am I repeating myself? Is what I'm saying making no sense? Please tell me what bugs you about me, so I can understand.
I appreciate your opinion. Maybe my friends feel the same way and they just aren't brave enough to roll their eyes at me.

" They'll be telling you every thing pretty soon.
Tip 3 Encourage healthy entertainment.
Some parents often tell me that they're happy if their child is reading anything. That horrifies me.
I'd rather my child read nothing than anything.
Reading stimulates the imagination.

Our imagination is where we create our lives. Yes this may seem shocking but it's true. We create our lives by the pictures we create.

That goes for the movies they're watching as well. Movies that inspire and teach are wonderful.
Mindless sitcoms have no value.

Tip 4 School is a great place for acquiring friends and testing out social skills. Don't put pressure on your kids to score high in school. If they do it naturally that's okay.
The main thing is they should enjoy school even if they're not A students. Often later in life A students work for C students.

School notes do not mean people have the skill for making money and being great leaders and visionaries.
Obviously children should understand the alphabet and numbers other wise school is a night mare for them.
Help your kids, when they ask you something don't ignore them - take the time to explain it to them.
If you don't understand after you've looked at the assignment, tell your kid you don't understand and look for solutions together. Tip 5 Teach them about the power of their thoughts.
Encourage free thinking.
Teach them about the law of attraction ie what we focus on is what we get. This is a lesson that a lot of adults still have to master.

If you can't afford some thing right now that they have their heart set on, go in visualising mode with them.
Take out a note book and let each child express from the heart how they would really like their room to be, what holiday they'd like to go on etc. Let them talk - refrain from saying, "we can't afford that." Take notes for them. I and my girls have a whole lot of fun doing this. Tip 6 Last but not least teach them about love. Love them; love their friends - even the ones you don't like.
Never make racist or derogatory comments about any one.
Children always follow by example.
If your kids are hanging out with a crowd that don't look and act savoury, be better company yourself.

Tip 7 Be a great parent yourself. Remember the words of Kahil Gibran: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, and yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love, but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward, not tarries with yesterday.